North Lakes Marriage Counselling - Linda Kelly
North Lakes Counselling Services - Linda Kelly - Keep your relationship back on track

Welcome to Couples Counselling

Have you been thinking about having couples counselling but not sure if it’s for you? You may have heard stories from others who have done couples therapy and so you’re here, wondering ‘what if?’, for you and your partner to do relationship therapy.

I’ve worked with hundreds of couples and every couple is unique.

You’re both different people, with different life stories and coming together to build a relationship. Possibly over time, the difficult situations you’ve been through or the unresolved issues has changed how you feel towards each other and the type of relationship you now have.

In Couples Counselling you both express concerns and what you would like out of the relationship and for yourselves. You will learn what creates a happy, harmonious and sustainable relationship, so then you’ll able to apply that knowledge to the relationship with your partner and to the relationship with yourself.

Welcome to Couples Counselling

Thinking about having couples counselling but not sure if it’s for you? You may have heard stories from others who have done couples therapy and so you’re here, wondering ‘what if?’, for you and your partner to do relationship therapy.

I’ve worked with hundreds of couples and every couple is unique.

Your are both being different people, with different life stories and coming together to build a relationship. Possibly over time, the difficult situations you’ve been through or the unresolved issues has changed how you feel towards each other and the type of relationship you now have.

In Couples Counselling you both express concerns and what you would like out of the relationship and for yourselves. You will learn what creates a happy, harmonious and sustainable relationship, so then you’ll able to apply that knowledge to the relationship with your partner and to the relationship with yourself.

How does it work?

Sustainable and effective change doesn’t happen in just one session. You are making an investment into your relationship and future together. 

1

Our first session as a couple

It can be unchartered territory for some people to really open their innermost self to another person, even a counsellor. Know that you are in a safe space and everything we discuss is kept strictly confidential.

The first session with both partners will involve exploring your current concerns, a history overview and establish a plan of what you would like to achieve for the future.

You will learn some strategies you can use so you can see results right from the first session.

2

Individual sessions

Individual sessions allow each partner to express concerns in a different way knowing their partner is not in the session.

We explore how you ‘show up’ in your relationship; your personal history, your own part in the relationship and how these areas affect your connection.  We delve into what you hope for as an individual and as a partner within your relationship.

Each partner expresses their version to an impartial professional counsellor. I am not on anyone’s side, but rather I am on their relationship side. I’m here to get to the heart of what you both want and give you the tools to get there.

3

Follow-up couple sessions

After the individual session, we then have follow up couples counselling sessions.

The focus is around the areas that were discussed within your individual session, then I bring it back to what you are both willing to enhance on within yourself as an individual and as a partner, to strengthen your relationship together. You will learn new ways to communicate, connect with empathy and emotional awareness, so then you’re able to apply this knowledge to your relationship in a way that feels comfortable for you both.

North Lakes Marriage Counselling

FAQ

•  Improve communication
•  Manage conflict
•  Strengthen closeness
•  Empower affection and intimacy
•  Deal with betrayl and trust issues
•  Rediscover connection in a long-term relationship
•  Wanting to leave a relationship
•  Healing after a relationship breakup
•  Past trauma impacting intimate relationships
•  Support transition from being a couple to being single and/or co-parents
•  Support through life changes
•  Regain self-identity and self-worth

Partners can have individual counselling even if they are in a relationship, or even if they are at crossroads within their relationship.

Individual therapy is possible for you if your partner isn’t able to join, or if they want to join another session or if you’re the only one who wants to do therapy.  We can delve into what you would like to strengthen in the relationship with your partner, and clarify what you would like out of the relationship.  You can learn new ways to communicate with your partner and learn how to change the way you respond in moments of conflict.  Individual sessions are also an opportunity for you to work through reassessing the relationship and learning what makes a happy and sustainable relationship, so then you’re able to apply that knowledge to your relationship.

•  Feeling like you’re having the same arguments come up with no resolution
•  You don’t feel close with your partner anymore
•  You avoid having confronting chats with your partner
•  One of you no longer trusts the other
•  Feels like there is constant tension between you both
•  Your friends know more about your relationship problems than your partner 
•  Feeling like you’re more like room-mates than lovers
•  You keep yourself busy so you don’t have to spend time alone with your partner
•  You know your relationship is suffering but don’t know what to do

It’s important to remember, every couple is different, no two are the same – you and your partner are in a unique relationship .

So sessions are tailored to suit your needs, you may need a few or many sessions, depending on what you want to work through, what you would like to achieve and the level of support you seek – we discuss your progress along the way.  Where there is a crisis situation, weekly sessions are recommended until stability has been established and then we resume fortnightly sessions.  

Couples counselling is best when a relationship is healthy so you can avoid future crisis. OR once crisis is adverted, you can delve into making the relationship one that thrives not just survives.

• Learn each others communication and conflict styles

• Maintain a sense of being cared for and guided through therapy by a professional counsellor

• Feeling safe to express issues that have not been dealt with or are avoided

• Be accountable for oneself and what happens in the relationship in between sessions

• Assess strategies used and debrief on how to improve on them

• Reflect on changes made and create new patterns

• Maintain  connection with your partner

Intimacy coaching does not focus on working with issues, or resolving conflicts etc. It’s about bringing two partners together on a deeper and more intimate level. For more details read here Intimacy Coaching

Book an Appointment

In-person appointments available at:

Deception Bay 
Book via the online booking system.

My Home Studio at
North Ridge Estate
(Off Boundary Road, near North Lakes Costco)
Deception Bay,   Qld  4508

North Lakes
Book via the online booking system.

‘Soul Spectrum’
Shop 5/25 Discovery Drive
North Lakes,  Qld  4509